We’re starting off with the big questions on the blog today. Something that’s bothered me for years and years but I never think to ask anyone about it. Not a topic that comes up casually all that often, at least not for me. So here it is, un-casually. In books, television, movies, everything, people in the shower often lean forward a bit and let the water wash down their face. I find this tremendously uncomfortable. I rinse my face as quickly as possible.
Is this a thing people actually do? Am I in the minority on this? Or is it just some weird media thing that people who make that stuff decided seemed good? There is a certain drama to it, I can definitely pick up on the emotion of the act even if I think it’s heinous.
I have increased my modest exercise regimen for the month of May and, though it doesn’t involve more than a pose or two of yoga, just before bed, I am taking inspiration and encouragement from Bubba, who absolutely does not know yoga but absolutely does end up in weird positions all the time.
I’m reading a book series, Big Bad Wolf (yes it’s very on the nose, I’m over it) by Charlie Adhara, and I’m really enjoying it. It’s a nice enough story and decently written but the main reason I’m enjoying it is because it just seems. Healthy? The romance between the main characters is fraught, of course, but they keep making good decisions for each other? They keep communicating? They keep looking out for one another?
Obviously, in romance-novel-land, almost all stories end happily ever after (or happy for now, as some put it, and that’s plenty, too, sometimes). But there’s also usually quite a bit of d r a m a in between. That’s kind of the point. So I’m not sure exactly what it is but I just am really appreciating the way in which these books take the drama and let it be personal growth but without it feeling quite so. I’m not sure. So dramatic?
It’s not that they don’t make mistakes. They don’t decide “I’m going to do the right thing and we’re going to have a healthy relationship” and that’s that. But they decide they want to be healthy and they consistently try. It’s something the main character, in particular, comes back to even in times of extreme emotion and difficulty. He thinks “honesty and communication are important for this relationship to work” and then makes it happen. Even when it’s hard.
I feel like your reaction to the way I’m describing this is either um duh or wow you need better relationship examples in your life. And I don’t think I mean it as either. Sometimes, it’s just good to be reminded, though, right? It helps me to see it clearly on the page, seeing the character’s exact thoughts and all that. It’s been really nice.
Recently, I’ve been trying to practice patience with others regarding communication. I have some prior experience with virtual communication being my primary way of interacting with friends and family, so pandemic-time restrictions, while difficult, have been a bit easier on me in that regard. Not everyone has that.
I keep trying to communicate clearly with friends and things and I think I do okay most of the time (hurray some modicum of personal growth) but now I need to learn to be with people where they are, rather than expecting them to be on the same page I am–just in the sense of ‘how do/can we communicate and be friends.’ I ranted to a friend the other day about group chats and he reminded me that not everyone understands virtual cues and procedure in the same way that I do.
And yes, I just claimed to have some understanding of social cues and procedures. Somehow.
Anyway, not really going anywhere else with that. I’m going to go back to my books now, have a nice week.